In my forty-seven years of living I have had the opportunity to meet many people. Some who never became more than mere acquaintances, and those of whom I call my true friends. There is a special soul-binding tie between us. We all can agree that there is nothing like a close circle of friends. We come from different nationalities and cultures. We share many things that are common, and even not so common. However, we blend harmoniously together for the common cause of our friendship.
You know it is really hard to imagine any deeper demonstration of friendship than someone who would put my good over their own and who promotes my welfare even if it demotes their own. And vise-versa.
The bible tells us of such a friendship. It was the friendship shared between Jonathan and David. The scripture says; “the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.” (1 Samuel 18:1)
Jonathan was the son of King Saul so was the legitimate heir to the throne of Israel. But Jonathan realized that God had chosen David to be the next king so he laid down his own future to protect him, even from his own father who was out to kill David. Jonathan would have given his life for his friend. Now that is true friendship!
At the heart of friendship is selflessness instead of selfishness. That’s a hard concept for many in this generation. Many ask the question: What is in it for me? How will this friendship promote my agenda? Is this friend going to help me break into that social circle? Who does this friend know that I’d like to know? People don’t usually admit such things out loud but what if motives ran like ticker tapes across our foreheads?
If we have but only one true friend in a lifetime it is a precious treasure. Real friends are rare. Do you have one? Here’s a better question: are YOU a real friend to someone else? Could you put aside what was best for yourself like Jonathan did in order to do what was best for your friend? Looking for the heart of friendship? Well, look no further than your very own heart.